The Art of Curiosity in Leadership: A Catalyst for Career Success

Let’s talk about those painfully awkward work events. You know the ones where you’re trapped in a sea of small talk, desperately trying to find common ground and secretly wishing you were anywhere else but there? I recently attended one such event, and let me tell you, it was about as thrilling as a root canal. I found myself in a one-sided conversation, firing off questions like an interviewer asking for the truth from a politician. Awkward, right? So, what’s a curious soul to do in such situations? First things first, I’m no peacock. I don’t crave the spotlight to shine solely on me. But I also don’t want to play the perpetual interrogator. A meaningful conversation is a two-way street, folks! Now, I’m no stranger to these uncomfortable exchanges; after all, I work in academia where many of my brilliant colleagues find it difficult to talk outside of their discipline. But at an event where you may not know many people, it may be a good idea to take advantage of the networking. There may be someone out there who may be a great connection, or at least an interesting person to talk to for 5 minutes so you don’t continue to drink the free wine when there is an awkward pause. Mutual curiosity is the glue that holds it all together. Remember Dale Carnegie and his classic book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People”? He wisely advised getting people to talk about themselves, which is fantastic advice for those of us not born with the gift of gab or innate curiosity. Curiosity, my friends, is both a trait and a skill. Whether you’re a natural introvert or an extrovert extraordinaire, curiosity can be nurtured and cultivated like a fine wine. Like any leadership skill, it just takes practice. Once you’ve breezed through the “Where do you work?” and “How long have you been there?” pleasantries, it’s time to delve deeper. Here are a few of my trusty go-to questions that can ignite your curiosity and turn a mundane chat into a memorable one. And rule #1, always remember and say their name. That will get you bonus points. Eli, where do you think your industry will be in 5 years? Has AI thrown a curveball into your daily routine, Monica? Simone, what’s a typical day like in your line of work? Zeke, I would love to know an industry secret that most people don’t know. Is there a roadmap to success in your profession, Reggie? Remember, there’s always something to learn from someone, even if it’s just how to endure an excruciating work event with a smile. So, stay curious, my friends, and keep those minds open – you never know what treasures of knowledge you might unearth in the most unexpected places. Subscribe on my website theresarickekiely.com. Follow me on social media @drtheresarickekiely on Instagram, Facebook, and LinkedIn. #mindfulleadership #nonprofitleadership Watch for my upcoming book on mindful nonprofit leadership coming soon!