Learning Mindful Leadership: It Takes Practice!

When I teach nonprofit leadership, students want the magic formula. What model, theory, book or philosophy will make me a CEO tomorrow. “It doesn’t exist”, I say almost apologetically. Don’t get me wrong, they do help; otherwise, I would not have a career. In the world of leadership, words and books can only take you so far. While theories and principles may provide valuable insights, true leadership is a skill that is honed through real-life experiences. It is trial and error that truly teaches us how to lead effectively. These parents may be harsh and unforgiving, but the lessons they impart can be profoundly transformative.  

Think of it this way: you can read countless books and even engage in virtual videos on how to drive a car or fly a plane. But most of us do not want to take a cross-country flight with a pilot who hasn’t had hundreds of hours of practice. Leadership operates in a similar manner—it requires immersion and practical experience. It isn’t effective unless you bear the risks and rewards of your actions. 

I am particularly appreciative of what I call crucible lessons. Those moments of high emotion, intensity, and often great consequences, where leaders are truly tested. These moments can arise from a crisis, a challenging project, or a difficult team dynamic. In these crucible lessons, leaders are pushed to their limits, and their true character and abilities are revealed. These moments are powerful and the greatest teachers we can have.  

I have had many of these moments- and still have them today. They are uncomfortable. At the time I probably would have requested a pass. “Thank you- let’s skip this lesson this time.” Upon reflection, they gave me the skills I needed to climb the ladder of leadership. Thank you, universe, for giving me difficult people, challenging policies, and people who taught me the value of DE&I, empathy, responsibility and countless other lessons. These crucible moments have made me a better leader. 

When I teach nonprofit leadership, students want the magic formula. What model, theory, book or philosophy will make me a CEO tomorrow. “It doesn’t exist”, I say almost apologetically. Don’t get me wrong, they do help; otherwise, I would not have a career. In the world of leadership, words and books can only take you so far. While theories and principles may provide valuable insights, true leadership is a skill that is honed through real-life experiences. It is trial and error that truly teaches us how to lead effectively. These parents may be harsh and unforgiving, but the lessons they impart can be profoundly transformative.  

Think of it this way: you can read countless books and even engage in virtual videos on how to drive a car or fly a plane. But most of us do not want to take a cross-country flight with a pilot who hasn’t had hundreds of hours of practice. Leadership operates in a similar manner—it requires immersion and practical experience. It isn’t effective unless you bear the risks and rewards of your actions. 

I am particularly appreciative of what I call crucible lessons. Those moments of high emotion, intensity, and often great consequences, where leaders are truly tested. These moments can arise from a crisis, a challenging project, or a difficult team dynamic. In these crucible lessons, leaders are pushed to their limits, and their true character and abilities are revealed. These moments are powerful and the greatest teachers we can have.  

I have had many of these moments- and still have them today. They are uncomfortable. At the time I probably would have requested a pass. “Thank you- let’s skip this lesson this time.” Upon reflection, they gave me the skills I needed to climb the ladder of leadership. Thank you, universe, for giving me difficult people, challenging policies, and people who taught me the value of DE&I, empathy, responsibility and countless other lessons. These crucible moments have made me a better leader.